Couples Counseling

What To Do When Your Partner Complains That You Work Too Much

Is this you? Your partner complains that you work an insane number of hours. They say they almost never get to see you, and that when you’re home, you’re checking email or returning phone calls. From your point of view, you don’t really have a choice about most of this. You’re only doing the very…

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Can You Give Up On Being Right?

What’s the hardest thing to do? Give up on being right. This can come up all the time with your sweetie, and in absolutely any relationship in your life. Here’s what happens: You have an idea, and you think it’s pretty good. Or you remember something, and you’re pretty sure your memory about this thing…

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Help For Infidelity: A Roundup

The biggest question we get about infidelity is: Can we get through this? As couples therapists, we can say from experience that some couples survive and even become closer after infidelity. Here’s a roundup of our most popular and helpful posts about infidelity. You’ll find tools about how to give an effective apology about a…

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Got Communication Problems? How To Turn It Around

It’s a humbling moment, but it changes your relationship for the better. It’s that moment that you realize that you’re a big part of the problems in your relationship. Until that moment, you feel frustrated with your partner that they are causing problems. You’re waiting for them to finally stop being stubborn or uncommunicative or…

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Tips From A San Francisco Couples Therapist: Stop The Attack-Defend Pattern

Gottman Method Couples Therapists help you shift your communication. We coach you during sessions and then teach you to coach yourselves at home. I’ll share one of the most important skills we teach couples. Many couples fall into something we call the “attack-defend” pattern. In attack-defend, one partner criticizes the other, and then the other partner responds…

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