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Couples Communication

Vanilla Meet Kinky: Managing Different Sexual Interests

Written by Georgia Hill, Marriage Family Therapist Intern Here’s the scenario: you meet a new person and you just click from your first date. You have great conversation, mutual attraction, and share each other’s sense of humor. Then the other shoe drops. Your date tells you, “I am beginning to explore kink and polyamory.” You are…

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Can You Give Up On Being Right?

What’s the hardest thing to do? Give up on being right. This can come up all the time with your sweetie, and in absolutely any relationship in your life. Here’s what happens: You have an idea, and you think it’s pretty good. Or you remember something, and you’re pretty sure your memory about this thing…

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Got Communication Problems? How To Turn It Around

It’s a humbling moment, but it changes your relationship for the better. It’s that moment that you realize that you’re a big part of the problems in your relationship. Until that moment, you feel frustrated with your partner that they are causing problems. You’re waiting for them to finally stop being stubborn or uncommunicative or…

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How To Stop Arguing About Money

Do you argue about money? Here’s a common argument: A couple starts talking about making vacation plans, and one partner brings up the trip to Italy they’ve always wanted to take. The other partner says they can’t afford it right now. The more they talk about it, the worse they both feel. The one who…

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Tips From A San Francisco Couples Therapist: Stop The Attack-Defend Pattern

Gottman Method Couples Therapists help you shift your communication. We coach you during sessions and then teach you to coach yourselves at home. I’ll share one of the most important skills we teach couples. Many couples fall into something we call the “attack-defend” pattern. In attack-defend, one partner criticizes the other, and then the other partner responds…

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