White People Who Love People Of Color: Don’t Let Your Unconscious Racism Destroy Your Relationship
TaLynn Kel tells us in “My Husband’s Unconscious Racism Nearly Destroyed Our Marriage” how she and her husband have managed to stay together and get closer. Her husband is white and Kel is black. She shares a generous and honest narrative about what it’s been like to navigate marriage with a white man. So would…
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Talking About The Election In Therapy
This past year we have witnessed an ugly, divisive presidential campaign that was painful for many of us to watch. And now, with this election, we see how deeply divided our country is. At the Bay Area Relationship Center we know we are affected, sometimes significantly, by such world events. Given how much is happening…
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When And How Should I Tell My Date I’m Polyamorous?
Why is the onus on the polyamorous person? It’s not quite fair. In an ideal world, two people would tell each other whether they were poly, monogamous, flexible, or anywhere in between. In this world, there’s often a default assumption of monogamy. In some Bay Area subcultures, there’s no assumption that everyone is monogamous. The…
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How To Come Out As Polyamorous To Your Parents And Relatives
Congratulations! You’re getting ready to do something courageous. You’re daring to let your family know more about you. In the San Francisco Bay Area, you find a ton of poly community and support. You’ve found friends and chosen family who totally affirm you. You don’t want to settle for being in the closet with your…
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Six Signs That You Should Go To Couples Therapy
Do you wonder if it’s time for couples therapy? You know it could help your relationship, but you haven’t taken the next step and picked up the phone. It just hasn’t made it to your to-do list yet. It’s never a bad time for good couples therapy. The average couple in therapy waits 6 years…
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